There are unspoken rules that allow two adults to have sex; one of them is consent, and the other is communication. The latter may seem simple, but the thing is that it’s not just talking, but agreeing before, during and after whatever happens between these two people.
To each their own; everyone has their personal preferences, but as a couple, both parties must agree, because the idea is to enjoy, have fun, experiment and not end up fighting, frustrated and perhaps resentful because one of the two has done something too much or in the worst case, has been silent about something.
Let’s remember that sex is to have fun, be uninhibited and enjoy a pyrotechnic moment with that special person. It’s a scenario in which many things can happen, some good and some not so good, but that doesn’t mean you should throw in the towel before scoring a goal.
That’s why here we’ll tell you about 8 bad moves that could happen during that sexy and hot moment:
No foreplay: skipping kissing, caressing, lurking, is sacrilege. Even if we say that you were already warming up through WhatsApp; you sent each other a couple of hot photos and were feeling hot, that’s valid. But never, ever, come and penetrate without warming up first.
It’s not porn: if you like porn and like to recreate some scenes, it’s valid, but don’t make a habit of it. You can fantasize and make your own porn movie; each one has its own rhythm, some are softer, others are wilder, it’s up to the protagonists to decide. Romance is always valid.
The egocentric: these characters whose mouths are full about being good lovers claim it because they concentrate on their own pleasure and, of course, they don’t know, understand or care about their partner’s pleasure. It’s not acceptable for only one to enjoy and, if this happens, there are ways for both of you to get pleasure, even if it doesn’t happen at the same time.
Doing things without asking permission: here it’s important to communicate during the sexual encounter, for example, establish if you’ll wear a condom or not, if they want to spit on you, spank you, etc., everything is something agreed upon. If you don’t agree, just tell them.
Silent sex: some prefer silence, others talk, others swear; everything is valid as long as they agree and enjoy it.
Be hygienic: no matter how much trust you have, hygiene is important. It’s not valid to have a date and be “marinated” all day. A shower before a good job is done and everyone is happy.
Saying another name: if you have been dating for a while and either one of you slips the name of an ex, it’s a very uncomfortable situation; suddenly a disconnection, a short circuit, we are all human and we make mistakes, so you should apologize and not make a big deal out of something that can happen to anyone.
Extending intercourse: a good fuck isn’t the one that lasts longer, nor it’s a marathon in which you are going to achieve increased satisfaction. Rather, it goes from fiery to tedious, because lubrication is lost and penetration can cause small lacerations in the genitals.
The truth is that, just as we’ve all had a bad day, we’ve also had a bad fuck, so don’t be discouraged, the important thing is that it doesn’t become a habit and that, please, you talk about it with your partner. After all, life is too short not to enjoy it and waste it without having sex #sinrecato.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés
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