Our whole body is a potential erogenous zone, just begging to be discovered. There are no rules, it can be enjoyed alone or with someone. Of course, there are areas that are more sensitive than others.
Mistakenly, some men and women still focus their sexuality on the penis and vagina, as psychologist and sexologist Ana Victoria Ramirez explains:
“Many people still think that the only possible sexuality comes to the man and then reaches the woman, by and through the penis. They think that caresses, kisses, bites, whispers, laughs, games, are not part of sex, that sex only has to do with the penis and the vagina, where they are always the protagonists”.
Today in Sin Recato we are going to talk to you about the erogenous map of the penis, the most sensitive areas, how it can be stimulated and we will also explain the surrounding area, as Ramirez approaches it:
The penile shaft: it is a quite sensitive area that can be stimulated manually or orally. A plus would be to use a lubricant to make the massage more fluid and smooth.
Caresses are usually done with the hand in the form of a ring, from top to bottom, from the base to the glans; start slowly and gradually increase the speed. You can use one hand and alternate both hands and fingers.
If what you want is to delay ejaculation, this is achieved by interrupting the caresses every so often so that the degree of excitement decreases and thus prolongs the stimulation.
The glans is the most sensitive part. It can be stimulated using the tongue or fingertips, preferably moistened, because friction can cause irritation. It is advisable to use lubricant and that the movements are circular, very soft and increasing until the temperature rises.
The perineum: it is the area that goes from the testicles to the anus, popularly known as the ‘taint’ and although it is a rather sensitive area, it is appreciated. It can be enjoyed, tasted and groped. It is recommended to stimulate with upward and downward movements and when approaching the anal area, you can make an outward pressure, a simple touch.
The testicles: the skin that covers them is called scrotum and is very sensitive, so the caresses should be gentle. A light massage, without squeezing hard, and it is recommended that the movement starts from less to more.
The anus: in this area is the so-called Point P of the man (prostate) is the door to enjoy their sexuality without prejudice, without taboos and, of course, Sin Recato. The experience will be more pleasurable if you use lubricant when using your fingers to stimulate the anus. Relax and enjoy if you want to go to the next level.
P-spot: if you are determined to experiment anal stimulation with your partner, it is very important to use a lubricant; if it is manually, it is also important the hygiene of the hands and, of course, of the anal area. If you want to increase the pleasure, in sex stores you can buy vibrators or anal toys.
“Some couples discover the art of caressing in parts other than the genitals, without always using caressing as a path to intercourse, or even orgasm. Regarding the orgasm, it is worth remembering that, although caresses on the genitals can be used in a prolonged and rhythmic way to achieve it, they can also be offered as a way of giving pleasure without pursuing that goal”, concludes sexologist Ramirez.
And the expert’s tip:
The best way to know your partner’s preferences in terms of caresses is simply to ask them. Sometimes the pain gestures caused by clumsy but well-intentioned caresses in a delicate area can be misinterpreted as signs of pleasure, so it is better to say whether you liked it or not.
Do not be shy to ask, or to suggest, or to give guidance and let yourself be carried away by the moment. Nor should you think that instructions: “higher, or faster”, will detract from the spontaneity of the situation, although too much spontaneity, sometimes, is not a companion of pleasure. Communicating through gestures, or guiding the partner with the hand, is enough to make oneself understood.
In heterosexual couples, sometimes the woman does not like it when the man ejaculates too soon during caresses or intercourse. This does not have to be a problem, since the relationship and contact can continue, even if he has ejaculated.
Having had an orgasm does not prevent the man from continuing to caress his partner’s body, even if he does not have an erection. Nor does it prevent the man from continuing to be caressed.
Sexuality has a universe of possibilities and as long as there is trust, communication and the couple is in agreement, everything is allowed. Experiences are unique and personal and, as I have said on many occasions; you cannot measure yourself with other people’s watches. Everyone enjoys and experiences pleasure in different ways.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés