In the past, the roles of men and women were established: the man was the provider of the household, who worked and protected his family, the woman took care of the home and her children and everyone was happy… so they say.
Over time, women began to study, work and advance in all spheres to reach positions that were previously reserved only for men.
David Willetts, a British researcher, assures that successful women often choose less successful partners: “They need moral support more than financial support. Although in most cases, men consider that it is not good when women take control, since they want to defend their superiority because being in an inferior state makes them feel miserable and useless.”
And while women hold important positions and even have better salaries than their partners, this apparent success is not reflected in their romantic relationships.
The million-dollar question is: Why does this happen?
Relationship expert Tracey Cox has a theory that explains: “Society has always rewarded businessmen and their financial skills and women are praised for their beauty and charisma. And so, when a woman stands out for her intelligence and not just her curves, this situation makes men feel intimidated and see them as unattainable”.
Generally, this type of women are focused on their professional life and leave aside their love life which, many times, does not exist or is a disaster, because they do not make good choices or because they do not find someone who complements them.
In addition to being intimidating because of their strong personality and character, some men don’t feel good enough to approach and assume before trying that they are going to be rejected, so they don’t make the first move.
Cox confirms that this is why many famous women don’t have partners: “Men drool over supermodels and actresses, but in reality, for a lasting relationship, they prefer a woman with a normal life.”
And in turn, many of these successful, beautiful, intelligent and independent women always end up related to mediocre guys, because since they are not used to any man getting close, as soon as one flatters them, they fall for them.
“The lack of love and sex leads them to cling to the first man who says three nice words to them, and the worst thing is that most of them have a magnet for womanizers, who are the only ones who have enough arrogance to approach such a type of woman,” says the expert.
Cox points out that these women, in devoting time to their careers, miss some signs that would help them detect that they are not with the right person. The reason is that the magic lasts about three months and after this time, they really see that they are with a toad and not with the Prince Charming they dreamed of or at least the one they had idealized.
However, there are also successful women who find the balance, and can have a full family life and be fulfilled professionally, but to achieve this it is necessary to be focused and sure of what she wants.
That is how so many successful women choose their career over a family life or a partner, and it’s valid. There are also women who put aside their career because they decide that their family is their priority.
Whatever your choice is, make it valid, because it deserves respect and, hopefully, it is motivated by what you want and feel and not by what your family says or what is established as socially correct.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés
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