If you keep romanticizing sex with the idea that everything should be perfect as a Hollywood movie, with hands intertwined and music playing in the background, you should realize that life is not perfect and that imperfection is what makes everything better and, of course, more fun.
Smells, strange noises or some accidents during sex are normal. The question is how to react to any of those situations that can be embarrassing at first, but if it doesn’t damage the good time, it only means one thing: you’re with the right person.
Today I’ll talk to you #sinrecato about figuring things out and turning what you’ve experienced into anecdotes:
Special effects: vaginal flatulence can occur due to the air accumulated between the penis and the vaginal walls at the moment of penetration; or digestive flatulence, which in addition to being noisy are stinky.
Solution: the answer is simple: laugh. In the first case, you can try practicing Kegel exercises and Yoga to prevent them from happening; in the second case, you can apologies and, of course, avoid heavy food (beans or mondongo) before the sexual encounter.
Allergic to you: about 12 percent of women in their 20s and 30s suffer from a rare condition called hypersensitivity to human semen. Symptoms include irritation, painful urination and itching in the genital area after intercourse. In most cases it manifests itself after one hour and is mistaken for dermatitis. Irritation of the penis by vaginal fluids has also been detected in some men.
Solution: experts recommend the use of condoms, taking anti-allergics and avoiding exposure to genital fluids.
Stage fright: many men confess that due to the excitement of being with a woman they like, they lose their erection or ejaculate quickly. It is a very common and frequent accident.
Solution: relax and enjoy through imagination. The penis is not always the protagonist. Anthropologist Carole S Vance says: “The most important sexual organ of the human being is in the middle of the ears”.
Tiger’s leap: if you want to live different experiences be careful, because a sudden movement, or having sex on the beach, or using certain substances, for example, could cause from penis burns to a painful fracture of the corpus cavernosum.
Solution: before any experience, be aware of the details in order to prevent a painful or uncomfortable moment from happening.
What if it doesn’t happen? Some women may be very aroused but don’t lubricate, which causes a painful penetration for both parties.
Solution: oral sex can help or you can also use a vaginal lubricant. Visit your gynecologist if the origin is medical or a psychologist if the problem persists.
I remind you that the confidence the couple has in bed brings healthy solutions. Not only because your bodies are naked, but also your minds. Not having to pretend to be anyone else and being comfortable with any role or game they want to try, without feeling ridiculous or silly.
However, confidence can lead to the other extreme, which is carelessness and that’s not what this is about. When we feel good about ourselves, of course others notice it immediately. It is not about neglecting hygiene, for example, not taking a bath or not brushing your teeth, the idea is to be confident with your partner, not to end the romanticism.
Washing every day does not change the natural odor of the genital organs. Some people abuse the use of intimate soaps that instead of helping, they alter the vaginal or seminal flora and can cause infections. In addition, eliminating the natural odor artificially causes an anti-erotic effect for many people.
North-American gynecologist Jessica Shepherd explains: “Each person has their own odor in their genitals, whether male or female. When your scent is combined with someone else’s, regardless of gender, the two of you will create a different scent, so that scent changes from couple to couple”.
The expert adds: “People sweat quite a bit during sex and stress can make the smell worse, so it’s better to relax. The smell of sex can also be altered by the use of condoms or flavored lubricants”.
Even if condoms are not flavored, they emanate a strong latex odor, which in some people causes irritation and itching: an indicator of allergy to this type of material.
During a sexual encounter, smells and flavors are released all the time that make the moment hotter and make you want to continue, but if you want the environment to be full of stimulating smells, I suggest aphrodisiac oils and essences such as jasmine, cinnamon, ginger, vanilla and sandalwood.
Regarding the taste, the best and healthiest way is to have a balanced diet: low consumption of red meat, high consumption of fruits, vegetables, cereals and physical activity. A healthy lifestyle will improve the taste and quality of your fluids. It is important to avoid smoking, alcohol and psychotropic substances.
When a couple is comfortable with each other, there is no need to run to change after sex, it is nice to stay naked and talk as long as you consider. You have nothing to hide from each other. If there is an intimate moment and you fantasize about them, you have understood everything.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés