Most of us know what happens when people have sex, there is a lot of information about it, but have you ever wondered: what happens after? A sexual encounter depends on two and, of course, this has a load of emotions, spontaneity, morbidity, eroticism and passion.
When an orgasm is felt, it is, as the French expression describes it, the ‘petite mort’, which means “the little death”; you experience a state of stupor and disconnect from the world.
Now, after you had already taken a breath of fresh air, I will tell you #sinrecato how to get back to normal:
Physical contact: the most common complaint, after having sex with your partner, is that you turn over; that is, you are disconnected and there is not the slightest possibility of a hug or even a caress. The reality is that it depends on each person, we all react differently.
What is true is that, after having sex, the body continues to release hormones such as oxytocin, also known as the love hormone, which is the one that invites you to continue hugging, caressing or touching each other to strengthen that emotional bond and become intimate with each other in a positive way.
Conversation: after achieving that physical and emotional release by having sex with someone you like, the impulse is to keep going with that person, and there is a spontaneous urge to talk about what you two felt and even what you would change the next time; I call that instant the ‘truth serum’.
According to research, this is a good time to talk, ask for favors or get your partner to agree to something, of course in realistic and achievable situations.
This conversation is more of an intimate dialogue that allows you to get to know each other, sexually, and to know more about each other, it is not an interrogation though.
Sleep: we must continue to break taboos about sexuality; having the desire to sleep after sex is normal, it does not mean anything other than that you had good sex and the body needs to rest after a good job.
Sleeping is not synonymous with rudeness or bad manners, it is a physical response of the body; a restful sleep is the best way to express the after sex, so relax and enjoy that moment too; sleep to recharge your energies.
Urinating: everything has its moment, so you do not have to rush to the bathroom either. Of course there are a number of recommendations after sex that are important for proper sexual hygiene, such as, for example, urinating before and after sex because it is a way to avoid STDs or STIs.
The reason is that, during sex, the body generates secretions that can accumulate in the bladder, and urinating expels all those bacteria, preventing infections.
Relax: as long as the place where you are allows it, you should take advantage of the scenarios to pamper yourselves. You can take a shower together or a bubble bath in a tub or jacuzzi.
This is a fun and pleasurable example of post sex care and, why not, it can rekindle desire. There is also the possibility that, after this delicious bath, you will continue to sleep and prepare for the second round.
According to experts, there is something about the post climax lull, when for a few minutes, it seems that everything is possible. There are no rules, no time limits, you can say anything.
Do not forget though, take it easy, it is not about making a marriage proposal or overthinking everything, it just means that is a perfect scenario to talk about dreams, aspirations, hopes and, best of all, surprise each other with a sincere detail like a hug that tells you everything that words cannot express.
Traducción del español: Catalina Oviedo Brugés